A picture is worth a thousand words.... and sometimes a thousand hurts

Whether we accept/realise it or not, first impressions do count.  We look for things that 'stimulate' the senses, give us a sense of curiosity or for some, challenges them.  Various psychological studies indicate that it can take anywhere from 7 - 30 seconds for an individual to subconsciously 'decide' what they think of a visual.

It's after that 30 seconds where they decide how to approach their judgement. 

Some approach constructively.  If it's something that interests them, they will explore further.... make the time and effort.  Throw in positive remarks, find the logic and look at the visual for it's ENTIRE value rather than small elements.



And then there are the ones who are just plain critical.... maybe intimidating..... borderline bullying.  Hurtful remarks, and fail to see the visual for it's worth.  Don't take the time to weigh the positives and negatives.  Sometimes these criticisms plant a hurtful seed in people that grows into a weed and takes a long time (if ever) to leave.

Not everyone is going to get along.  No one in the entire world is going to like everything.... that would be boring! But wouldn't it be great if as individuals we could learn to be more 'constructive' in our judgements rather than negative?

Consider this..... and the phrase "If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all!" 

Doesn't grab my attention and don't wish to pursue further..... shrug your shoulders, take a breath and WALK AWAY (end of story).

Grabbed my attention but I have negative opinion of it.... shrug your shoulders, take a breath and WALK AWAY (end of story).

Great approach for life as well!
That person is peeving me off but they have no real relevance in my life.... shrug your shoulders, take a breath and WALK AWAY (end of story).

That person is peeving me off but I have to deal with them regularly.... shrug your shoulders, take a breath and CONSTRUCTIVELY approach them with your issue!

That person is peeving me off and s**t's about to go down..... if you don't know them or deal with them, shrug your shoulders, take a breath and WALK AWAY! If you regularly deal with them.... take a breath and WALK AWAY - let them shoot themselves in the foot!

Seems like such a vague approach and I'm not saying this works for everyone in every circumstance, but if you're prone to conflict.... it's a start! Think of what you would do if the roles were reversed.  Say to yourself:

"Would you want that said to you?"

My challenge to you today is to say something positive to someone.  If you see something that you would normally make a negative remark about, then be constructive in your approach!


Have a beautiful day! :-)

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